What My Mom Taught Me About Money

Andrea’s note: This is a guest post from my 13 year-old son, Jayden. Please be kind! This is his first attempt at blogging and he’s a little nervous. I’d love it if you would all leave a comment - hopefully it will encourage him to do this again sometime.

My mom is always talking about the economy and topics related to money. Honestly, I don’t care too much about that stuff because I’m just a kid. I do know that the economy is not as good as it was when I was younger, and many teenagers don’t know a lot about finances. The economy may never improve if we’re in charge. Here are a few things I’ve learned from my mom that I think all kids my age should know about money.

  1. If you have trouble holding onto money, don’t get a credit card. My mom used to go out and spend too much money on credit cards, and it added up to a lot of debt. Later on, we didn’t have any money for ourselves because we had to pay it all toward credit card payments. I was little and it was hard for me to understand why everything was different. It would have been better if she spent what we could afford all along. Instead, I was used to getting new stuff all the time and I used to get mad when she said no. When I’m older, I will get a credit card for emergency use only. An emergency would be something like car repair, not clothes shopping or going out to eat.
  2. You should always save as much as possible. I don’t save much right now because my mom takes care of everything I need. She makes me save 10% of my allowance every week and I’m never allowed to spend any of it on things I want. But when I’m an adult, I’ll need to save for things like retirement and emergencies (so hopefully I’ll never have to use a credit card). My mom saves for things now instead of buying them with credit cards. It makes a lot of sense to save up money when you want something and don’t have enough money to pay for it. Even if it’s something you really want, sometimes you have to wait.
  3. You should think of several ways to make money instead of just one. If all your money comes from your job, you could get in trouble if you had a crappy job like my mom had. (Andrea’s note: You can read the story starting here.) They didn’t treat her very nicely and she was always mad when she came home from work. She didn’t make enough money to pay all the bills. We were lucky she was a blogger because the blog made money too. When I’m older, I don’t want to have just one income because something might go wrong. I could get fired or laid off or I might not make enough money.
  4. Find a way to make money doing what you love. My mom quit her job so she could be a writer. She has always liked to write, even before I was born. Considering she makes enough money to pay the bills and got one of her blog posts put in a magazine, I think she’s doing a good job. She’s not as stressed out now and I get to see her more. I’m planning to become a blogger when I finish high school because I like working on the computer and I want to see if I’ll be as happy as Mom is. No matter how big or small your dreams are, you shouldn’t give up on them even if it takes a long time.

Those are the things I know about money so far. I think if all teenagers knew these things, they’d be better prepared for the future. Hopefully some teenagers will see this post and avoid making the same mistakes my mom did.

  • http://www.mortgagefreeinthree.com/ Elaine

    Congratulations Young Man on getting a handle on all of this now - this will save you from financial meltdown in the future and enable you to earn a living whatever the state of the economy. Let us know when you start you “Junior Money Blog” LOL

    • Jayden

      Don’t worry, I’ll let everyone know when I start my own blog. And if I forget, my mom will probably tell everyone.

  • Anonymous

    Well said and well written Jayden! Mom should be proud.

    • Jayden

      It wasn’t a big deal. She just wanted me to write a post, so I finally did. Thank you for reading.

  • CommonCents

    Jayden you are wiser then your years! Its great that your leaning these things now so you know what not to do!!

    • Jayden

      I agree. Hopefully when I’m an adult I’ll make good decisions with my money.

  • http://profiles.google.com/smavoc S Morgan

    Nice work, Jayden!! Too true about earning your money from more than just one place…I’m still working on figuring out what else I can do to earn money. I hope to see you write another post sometime!!

    • Jayden

      In the future, I will probably start writing more posts for Mom as practice for my own blog. Be sure to check so you don’t miss them!

  • Jessica Lancaster

    Jayden seems to be quite a smart young man! I wish people twice (and more) his age had the same ideas about money that he has. Great work!

    • Jayden

      Thank you!

  • Shellie Griffith

    Wonderful post! You should be so proud of him Andrea. Great job teaching him how to be a money-smart adult!

    • http://www.sooverdebt.com Andrea @ SoOverDebt

      I’m super proud. He is one awesome kid! Getting him to respond to comments has been like pulling teeth, but other than that I think it’s been a good experience.

  • http://makingsenseofcents.com/ Michelle

    Jayden made a great post! These are all great things to know.

  • Giner

    Great job, Jayden! Thank you for sharing with us.

  • http://www.dqydj.net/ PK

    Jayden, glad to see you’re ahead of the game!

    If you’re 13 I don’t see why you can’t blog now, even if it’s occasional guest posts on this site? 13 is usually the cut-off for age restrictions on the internet, and now that your Mom is getting traction I’m sure she would love the change of pace as well…

    • Jayden

      Right now I don’t think I can balance schoolwork and blog posts. I have a hard time staying focused on school, so I’m waiting until I have more free time. I’ll probably write more posts here though.

  • Debgemologist

    Your son is very smart and wrote an insightful post that everyone can learn from.
    And I think you should feel good too. I remember one of your previous posts where you were concerned about being able to teach him good money habits, since initially you were not a good example for him. I think he has made it clear that your changing your relationship with your finances has taught him a lot as well. What a great accomplishment!

    • http://www.sooverdebt.com Andrea @ SoOverDebt

      I really hope that he’s able to do all the things he wrote about and not repeat my mistakes. He knows what he needs to do; now I just want to see him do it.

  • Mltodd1018

    I wish I had known these things when I was teenager. Congrats on figuring things out early! Your mom should be proud.

    • Jayden

      Thank you! I hope I remember all this stuff when I get older.

  • http://www.thedebtprincess.com/ Jessica

    What a great post Jay!! I don’t think you have anything to worry about when it comes to blogging. You have definitely inherited the ability to write from you mother. A very good job. I’ve been thinking of asking my 9 year old to write a blog post too. He’s learning a lot about money because I’ve done a lot of the same things as your mom

    I hope you write more soon.

    • Jayden

      Tell your son to give specific details and try to stay close to the topic of your blog. That’s the best advice I can give to him.

  • http://therandompath.wordpress.com/ Mackenzie

    I wish I was this money-smart at 13. Great post

  • Featherdiane

    Jayden, I grew up with my Mother making poor financial choices (credit card debt, second mortages, impulse purchases before the monthly bills were paid) this caused so much stress and fighting in our home. Unfortunately, even though I knew that the way my Mom did things was wrong, I began my adult years making the same mistakes because I didn’t really know how to do things differently. I had to learn the hard way. I now have a 4 year old son and I can only hope that I can teach him the things that your Mother has taught you! You are on a great path and you show both wisdom and knowledge beyond your years. Please share this knowledge with your peers in anyway that you can because this is just one way you can help shape your generation’s future in a positive way!

    • Jayden

      Thank you for the compliment. I hope I can help others learn to do the right things when it comes to finances even though I still have a lot to learn.

  • http://www.frugalbeautiful.com Shannyn @frugalbeautiful.com

    Jayden! Wow you are a bright kid, I wish I had written a post when I was your age, huge high fives for getting on here and sharing what you know! I know it can be a bit scary when you blog the first time but I loved reading this post, you have some solid insights that I think adults need to hear, you’re smarter than many of them! haha!

    I want to read more of your stuff, so post on here anytime! As much as I love reading your mom’s stuff, nobody can resist hearing from a smart 13 year old to show us a thing or two!

    • Jayden

      Thank you. I’ll be sure to write more posts in the future. Are you the same person that my mom is always chatting with?

      • JT

        ROFL!

        • http://www.sooverdebt.com Andrea @ SoOverDebt

          I nearly spit - somehow I missed that gem earlier.

  • Anna Newell Jones

    You have some great insight and it’s evident that you’re very smart. I’m sure your mom is really proud of you!

    • http://www.sooverdebt.com Andrea @ SoOverDebt

      Definitely! It’s hard not to brag about him all the time. Seeing him think of his own list of money tips like that brought a little tear to my eye.

  • http://www.dollarversity.com Eric J. Nisall - DollarVersity

    Your mom is wise, and you should listen to what she teaches you. How else would you explain the fact that you know at 13 what many adults in their 30′s and 40′s can’t figure out! Just think, if you start learning about the economy and money now (even a little at a time), you will be much farther along than many people could hope to be

    • Jayden

      I think it’s sad that some adults don’t know how to take care of money. Hopefully I won’t be like that when I’m grown up.

  • http://www.broketo.ca Melissa

    Great post, Jayden! You’re clearly a really smart kid. You definitely know more about how to manage money than most of my friends in their twenties!

  • Anonymous

    Jayden, you are truly an inspiration, just like your mom! I think it’s wonderful that you have learned so much at a young age and that you are determined to be prepared for the future. You are far beyond your peers and I will be sharing this post with my three teenage boys. Congrats Andrea on being such a great example for your son, and as a mom myself, I know your are incredibly proud of him! Look forward to some more posts from you Jayden.

    • Jayden

      Thank you for reading. Just knowing that I might help other teenagers is a good feeling.

  • http://thirtysixmonths.com/ Marissa

    Whoa! Bright kid!

    I think Jayden’s writing is better than mine. I am emailing this to my 18year old sister- just so she can use as advice.

    • http://www.sooverdebt.com Andrea @ SoOverDebt

      Hope it helps her! Maybe knowing that a 13 year-old has figured this much out will inspire her to learn more.

  • http://onefamilyoneincome.blogspot.com/ OneFamily

    Great post! You are one smart kid and your mom should be proud

  • http://www.homeownerby30.blogspot.com/ LBC Teacher

    That’s all great advice. I like the point you made about not spoiling your kids at the beginning so they won’t get used to it and be mad when it’s taken away.

    • http://www.sooverdebt.com Andrea @ SoOverDebt

      That part made me laugh when I was reading over the post (AKA fixing all his typos). He really did act like a brat for awhile, and it made it SO hard to stick to what I was doing. But I was raised to believe that you don’t get things when you whine/cry, so I stuck to that. He’s become surprisingly grateful for what he has, and has realized that he still has more than 10 kids put together.

  • Slc1020

    Nice job! I especially like the do what yoy love! Life is so much easier if yiu do that.

    • Jayden

      I agree. I think some of these people who are doing things they hate only do them because they’re scared to try the things they like. I’d rather try things I like than be miserable.

  • Katie

    Can I hire this guy to write for my blog??? Seriously, Jayden, great first post! It sounds like you’ve learned some valuable lessons from watching your mother. You’re going to start out from a much better place than I did with money. Good luck to you, young man! I hope you’ll write again for the blog soon! (And you should negotiate a guest blogging income! At least a little increase in the allowance, I think. 22 comments already… That’s a lot of traffic you’re bringing in! )

    • Jayden

      Good idea. I asked my mom for an extra $5 a week and she laughed.

    • http://www.sooverdebt.com Andrea @ SoOverDebt

      I could smack you, Katie! He’s lobbying for a raise now! He did say he would write for your blog when he’s out of high school, but only if you pay him. LOL

  • Ashley

    Great post! I wish my parents had made me save 10% of everything I earned when I was your age. Keep up with the writing, you can definitely make a living doing what you love if you work at it!

  • http://twitter.com/blackbudgets Jolyn Myers

    Wonderful article! Here’s a big idea — you don’t have to wait until you finish high school to write or become a blogger… you can start right now! In fact, you already have! Looking forward to reading more!

    • Jayden

      I don’t think I can balance my schoolwork with blogging so I’m going to wait. Thanks for the compliment!

  • http://twitter.com/zolemia_ Susan Bachelder

    Impressive! Good lessons to have learned at your age, and well thought out I would have to say. I think you are so right in all of your points especially the dream part. I truly believe we should not give up on our dreams. I also agree that happiness is important. Some of our decisions should be based on whether it makes us happy or not! Keep writing Jayden!

    • Jayden

      All I really want in a job is to be happy with what I do. I don’t understand why so many people push themselves to succeed in a career they hate. Even if I don’t blog as my job, I want to find something that makes me happy.

  • Kristin

    That is amazing and Jayden has a better grasp on finances than a lot of adults. I think you are obviously doing a great job raising him Andrea. Even though you may have made some mistakes along the way with your finances, everything happens for a reason. You have taught your son valuable life lessons! Best blog post I have read all day!!!

    • http://www.sooverdebt.com Andrea @ SoOverDebt

      Thank you for saying nice things. I just hope he actually does all this stuff instead of just parroting all the stuff I’ve tried to wedge in his brain.

  • http://morethanasahm.blogspot.com/ Briana

    What a great post! You are ahead in life by knowing these things about money/finances. Well done!

  • http://www.themoneyprinciple.co.uk/ John@moneyprinciple

    There is hope when young folk can write posts like this! Good luck with your schooling J and why wait until you finish high school? Go for it now - find a passion of your own and get blogging.

    • Jayden

      I have said this a few times but I am not the best student, so I want to wait before I start a blog of my own. Otherwise my grades would probably get worse and I’ll be grounded all the time. Thank you for reading my post.

      • http://www.themoneyprinciple.co.uk/ John@moneyprinciple

        Yes J but you will learn a lot from blogging possibly including the technology and how things work, how the world works etc because you may be interacting with people a lot older than you and who can guide you. It may not be detrimental to your grades at all. Good luck anyway whatever you decide!

  • Jayden

    Thank you for the compliment!

  • Clutteredmoney

    I am so proud of you for writing this post!

  • Tanner E

    You really hit my writing out of the park, sort of speak. Good job on this article. You’re definitely setting up an example by being honest about your opinions and finding lessons in things that happened to you. Hope we can see more from you later.

  • http://www.20sfinances.com 20sFinances

    Great post - keep writing and learning from your mom. She’s a smart one and will be famous one day!

  • Anonymous

    What a nice post! Jayden, definitely find a career you will love and you will be good at it.

  • http://randomthoughtsandacronyms.wordpress.com/ Vanessa

    Congratulations Jayden! This article is so well written.

    Andrea, you should be so proud of yourself for raising your son to have such a sensible head on his shoulders

  • http://moneytalkscoaching.com/blog-2 Ashley @ Money Talks

    OMG, the wisdom! You are doing a great job…. both of you. :)

  • Afford Anything

    Hi Jayden! I’m glad you’re thinking carefully about saving and spending now, at the age of 13. Keep it up!

    You’ll do much better than most of your friends if you’re smart with your money starting from age 13 — which it sounds like you are. Nice job, Jayden!

  • http://squirrelers.com/ Squirrelers

    Great job on this post! Very well written, and it contains some real wisdom. I’m very impressed!

  • http://twitter.com/IAmDebtProject AmericanDebtProject

    Jayden, great post! I think these are great tips for adults and kids, and I LOVE tip #3, looking for more than one way to make money. It’s a great plan and even more powerful if you start young. Look forward to more of your posts!

  • http://lifeisfullofsunnydays.wordpress.com/ Sunny

    Great job Jayden. You have a great grasp on finance. This article was very well written. I can’t wait to read your next one.

  • http://insomniaclabrat.blogspot.com/ Insomniac Lab Rat

    Nicely written, Jayden! I was lucky enough to learn most of these lessons as a teenager, too, but I really wish I had saved more of my money. I could have saved myself a lot of stress over bills in college if I hadn’t spent so much of my money on junk in high school!

    I don’t know very many teenagers, but I know a lot of people in their early 20s who could also use this advice!

  • http://dracoangelica.livejournal.com/ Deni

    Best Bring your Kid to work day EVER.
    Its really easy to know what you think at 13, the key is to keep other people from changing your mind as you get older. Good luck buddy. I know that you can hold on to the truths in life.

  • http://www.moneytrail.net Pam at MoneyTrail

    Great job, Jayden! You are well on your way to be a successful blogger and have already learned some wise financial lessons. Good luck!

  • Catseye

    Wonderful first post, Jayden! Congrats and I look forward to more posts from you.

  • http://www.squarepennies.blogspot.com/ Maggie@SquarePennies

    Great job, Jayden! You have learned important things from your mom. I have to say that there are way too many grown-ups who have not learned these lessons. You are way ahead of them! Keep learning from your mom and you will have a great life!

  • http://twitter.com/financialsamura Financial Samurai

    Wow, awesome! Good job buddy! Keep up with the savings and appreciate everything your mom and you have!

    Best, Sam

  • http://twitter.com/prairieecothrif Miss T

    My mom taught me how to stretch a dollar as far as it can go. She is great at this. People thought I was rich growing up even though I wasn’t. She just really new how to spend right. I am still trying to perfect this myself.

  • http://mymultiplestreams.com/ Jeff @My Multiple Streams

    Way to go Jayden, hope my daughter picks up as much by the time she is your age!

  • http://couplemoney.com Elle Martinez

    Loved your lessons Jayden - it’s helpful advice for more than just teenagers. I think number 4 is my favorite - being able to get paid for something you love makes life not less stressful but much richer.

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  • http://diggingoutandup.wordpress.com/ Cassie

    So smart about money at such a young age! You’ll do well in life Jayden.

    Andrea, congratulations on raising such an intelligent young man.

  • Rosie

    Wow! Sounds like Jayden knows more about money than a lot of the adults I know !Well done!

  • http://cantfindcash.wordpress.com/ Tessa

    Good job Jayden! You really hit the nail on the head with everything you mentioned. I wish I had known those things as a teenager. You’ll be very successful in life, of that I have no doubt!!

  • Rafiki

    @ Jayden - 13 years old and outshining me and i’m willing to bet a few million more in financial knowledge. What a start at such a young age. You have an awesome mom Jayden.

    @ Andrea - You must be so proud. I’d bet anything you were moved to tears after reading this. You can’t tell me otherwise

    • http://www.sooverdebt.com Andrea @ SoOverDebt

      I’ll put it this way - I get teary over kid movies (I will never watch Toy Story 3 again because I sobbed for an hour afterward), commercials, and songs. So I’ll let you decide.

  • http://bogofdebt.wordpress.com/ Bogofdebt

    What an excellent post! I hope you write again! This is a post I will be having my nephews look at when they get a little older (and I know some adults who need to read it as well). I’m glad that you are already thinking of the future. I wish when I was younger I would have been smarter and followed some of this advice.